I’m very sorry, you and your family are going through something so terrible. As horrible as your cousin spoke to your aunt, I don’t think she’s at fault. There were times, when I was growing up, that I said some pretty mean things to my parents, that I regret. Looking back, I wished I never said things like that and I would never even think to say those kinds of things today. I said them out of anger, not that it excuses it or makes it alright. The unimaginable guilt, I would’ve felt, knowing those mean things I said, were the last words I got to say to them, would’ve killed me too. As unfortunate as it is, sometimes anger gets the best of us and we say things we don’t really mean. Most of the time, we get a chance to apologize and turn things around. Your cousin doesn’t have that chance and this will never be something she’ll be able to get over. She has to live, with this unbearable weight, for the rest of her life. Your aunt was most likely dealing with depression and/or some other mental illness for years before this. I don’t really like to talk about suicide, because it’s a sensitive subject where, everyone has their own view of it. I believe that, some people who have done it or attempted it, don’t see it as something selfish. I think that they see it as selfless, because, in their head, they believe they’re a burden on others, when in reality, that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m not saying that I believe this is how they all feel but, I think a lot do. That’s why I constantly tell you all to be kind and show compassion to everyone. A lot of people are struggling with things that they don’t talk about so, simply showing kindness, could, unknowingly to us, save their life. All you can do is, let yourself feel and allow yourself to forgive. Cry if you need to cry. Get angry if you feel angry and pray when you need to pray. Be there for your family, including your cousin. This isn’t something that will be easy to get through. You just have to take this day by day and stand together as a family.